Weightless

He is tiny. So thin. Really I can almost hold him in one hand. Except for his longer than anything skinny little legs. Prying him out of his crate the first couple of times was agonizing. He would tense up and go rigid and it was like a dog puzzle gone wrong. I despaired ever agreeing to such an endeavor. Me. Woman of way, way too many words on an endless loop blog of fall down, skin my knees, get up, go a bit further and . . . OK. You know. You dear reader, actually read these posts and OH YES!! I must THANK YOU for that, as always. And it isn't as though there is a dog shortage in these parts. I still cry over my dead Queensland every single day. I still have two rascally Corgis who are saving their pennies to join their beloved Dash in the foggy city up north. And of course, my pretty much steady all the time shadow, my first rescue dog, Lucky. Of LUCKY CAKES!! still sleeps with me always and keeps me trying to become a real runner. But a beautiful friend braved this gypsy enclave of cupcakes and bourbon and dogs and books and checked my place out and in her bravely beautiful way announced, "Oh yeeaaah. You could easily foster a dog here!" and VOILA. there was the thought. Flash forward to a day of happiness-the SOLVANG FAERIEFEST-and my cupcake triumph as "faeriecakes" (oh BTW, they really were good!) and the fact that I was completely supported in raising money for my beautiful friend who by now I am calling "The Dog Rescuer" and OH MY GOODNESS she really is! and flash forward even further to Sunday night when this little doggy miracle made it from her arms to mine and I became the proud link in a chain of SAVING A LIFE. Not much on this planet of chaos and mash-up school shootings, war in many parts, lying, cheating, and stealing on all levels, stockyards the size of cities, cats in mesh net bags on their way to market, food with deadly chemicals, needed medicines at out of reach prices, and you know, the constant and continual drip feed cyber speak of too much, not enough, forgotten, kidnapped, manipulated, disguised, and money above all. Yet this almost killed, on death row, wanted by NO ONE, tiny scrap of life, was saved through the hard work and constant vigilance of more than one person, transported by another, and brought to me shivering and curled up into himself. Bones more than anything. His tail was tucked so far I wasn't sure he had one. The first night and day were tough. He was closed off almost totally. But today I had a break from work and came home to sunshine in my backyard, my migraine blasting off fireworks behind my eyes OUCH! laid out a blanket, and tucking Lucky onto her pillow to soak up the rays, I pried the little guy out of his crate and laid him on many blankets next to my head. I dozed off a little, one hand on Lucky to keep her in place, one hand on my little guy and ALL OF A SUDDEN, I heard DOG noises from him!! I sat right up and he had burrowed his head under the blankets, flipped on his back, his little belly to the sun, and he was snuffling, tussling with the blankets-his tiny, tiny tail was wagging and RIGHT THEN I completely understood, on a cellular level that we are ALL connected and that LOVE makes absolutely everything possible. He had become his dog self again, a belly full of food, the sun warming him completely and you just know how happy, totally happy that made me. I know that my one act cannot make up for the thousands who are still caged and desperately mistreated, starved, and alone, but my tiny dog miracle THANKS to the DOG RESCUER-my beautiful friend Tiffany, certainly matters to our new little brother and even though someone near and dear to me grimaces at the thought of me naming him this . . . I call him little bro!! HOW CUTE IS THAT? little bro! Feelings are one thing, passion is beauty itself, but action is definitely my best friend.  I am proud to be part of making a difference, and I sleep so much better knowing that little bro was saved from death and now knows that he is loved. When I hold him close and he nestles his head tightly against my neck and I can feel his small breaths, something in me is healed. And that makes all the difference.  Little bro! LOVE ALWAYS!

little bro watching lucky the fly catcher in action! xo!!

Willful Blindness, Poor Decisions, and Love and Beauty

Dearest readers, My readers count is close to 4,000. See how I did not cap for emphasis? Am I maturing as a writer? Growing up? Oh good gawd. I sure as hell hope not. I hope I am remaining myself, because quite frankly? At this stage of my game, it might be pretty much all I've got.  I want to THANK YOU for reading my rants and ideas and wonderings and making my online cyber life a fantastic and rewarding one with your comments and support. The reason I did not capitalize FOUR THOUSAND-oops sorry-is because there are many, many, many of us writing the exact same things over and over and standing on our metaphorical soap boxes and shouting or standing at our attic windows and flying down paper airplane messages but NO MATTER, and this is why . . . during that downest time of all, nearly two years ago by now,  I could not see POSSIBILITY. Even thoughts of the unexpected brought me merely feelings of despair, impending disaster, and doom.  My late, LATE night cyber wanderings filled me in on so many people with shared experiences, similar griefs and sorrows, and a myriad of ways of coping-spending money, making money, saving money, wheatgrass, mud packs, college classes, finding a partner, divorcing, going vegetarian, paleo, vegan, donating time, money, research, traveling everywhere, expanding inner and outer horizons,  buying new clothes,  a new car, a new home, starting a garden, rescuing sea life, animals everywhere, tutoring children, sitting with the dying, comforting the lonely OH GOOD GAWD the world is a vast and complicated place for sure-but WHEN I WAS SO LOW-none of this looked good or desirable or meaningful or possible. But gradually, and with much, MUCH unconditional love and support from my three who are everything, I started to embrace love and beauty as the twin breathing in and out of my life, saddled up with my stubborn curiosity which refuses to die down, and hit the open road of gratitude and compassion for just one more day just one more day. Circling the entire messiness of my living, and yeah I know, it all always does come back to me, it was my brilliant grey-eyed daughter who sent me the song of all who have come before me to get me here, whether I am close to them or not, and my light filled son who chooses consciously to notice what matters essentially and sidelines the useless rest of it, and my youngest who knows compassion from the bare bones out and back again and what we have found and what we make is what we have and now I know this to be true. This almost late great month of August was one of sorting out TONS of refuse from the next door theatre and my home of 17 years. Journals and journals, pages and pages of writing from my students and myself to EVERYONE on the planet-my gawd I can talk!-and it is a damn good thing I live alone because I could cry through it all, laugh at a lot of it, talk to my lil dogs about blatant stupidity (mine), careless living (mine again I am afraid), and poor decisions (not mine alone, but plenty were mine!), bake midnight cupcakes, watch amazingly bad online TV, go for 2 a.m. vampire dog walks, and toss and toss and toss. When I say that I got this house museum down to one room of possessions? Know that there was a complete rebuilding and restructuring of life on my planet of me.  I let a whole HELL OF A LOT go. Donated. Dumpstered. Gone. So much willful blindness! So much energy expended ranting and raving, caring so much about so many things that just did NOT matter in any conceivable way, so much caring about other's opinions of myself-my looks, my tattoos, my clothes, my house, my art, my stitching, etc etc etc, my entire dog hair filled life and SO MUCH apologizing and guilt from yours truly!!!! What did I think would happen if I kissed enough ass? Truly, where did I think all of my shape shifting to please everyone would get me? WHAT would it get me? Willful blindness. I chose my focus. I made some incredibly poor decisions and even though HINDSIGHT IS A POWERFUL THING and I felt energized and excited LIKE I HAVE NOT IN A DECADE, as to all of the sorting and revisiting I was doing-truth be told, at that darkest hour right around 3 a.m. I felt a bit in the shadows. Don't we honestly do the best we can at any given moment? I must believe that we do, that I do, that I have tried my very best. And so last night, MONSOON weather which causes all of us here in the desert to dream of sheets of pouring rain, buckets of clear, cool water, and pools with infinite depth-I went for one of those death defying vampire dog walks like I was explaining and as I rounded the corner nearest me in my downtown outpost bastion of me-ness VOILA!!!! THE UNEXPECTED in the form of our very own tunnel of LOVE AND BEAUTY. Lit by strands of tiny fairy lights this pedestrian walk way tunnel stood out in the warm sea of last night's sleepless air and HONESTLY my lil doggies and I sat and had a champagne cupcake picnic RIGHT THERE in the unexpected tunnel of art, love, and beauty in the middle of the wee hours when sleep was unnecessary and the muses and spirits timeless were sitting with us in solidarity. And for that I THANK everyone who loves me and wishes me well. August was hard, August was damn difficult and challenging and emotionally and physically taxing to this OH MY GAWD don't make me tell you how old I am once again!!! woman-but what an August! Looking back was humbling, looking forward is breathless excitement, and sitting here with you, here, right now, makes everything possible. We have sadness overseas to sort out, millions of animals to save, our own tiny precious everything lives to create and enjoy and if we keep each other good company? I believe like the man said, I believe.  LIVE FOR LOVE!!!

Wayfaring Stranger

dearest ones, today i must share with you the most beautiful post i have had the honor to write in quite some time. yes, as you can well imagine, i tire of all of my CONSTANT AND CONTINUAL rending of my heart and queries as to direction and gut-wrenching pleas for attention and importance and worth and that vast array of middle-aged, human being ANGST just as i am pretty sure you despair of ever having to listen to all of it ever again (your thoughts for sure: OMG!!!! when WILL she ever figure it all out and GET ON WITH IT????) and yesterday i was privileged to spend time with the one and only person on the planet who can shut all of this nonsense down, ground me in live reality, and bring compassion and tenderness to my life. she is a brilliant echo of her parents-master cellist and artist visionary-and an influenced combination of the many teachers, musicians, children, and other spirits who have bumped up against her fabulous self and walked some miles down her just beginning road. not to mention the greatest pair of uncles EVER. here is how i know that life is worth living . . . so we are chattering CHATTERING back and forth like two of the most happy canaries and WOW that is what i miss SO MUCH about my children being grown and gone and off and busy-that captive audience of tolerance and acceptance and LOVE. she LOVES to be with me, listen to me, and spend time with me. that is heady stuff. in my sealed off just keep working like an idiot to keep busy so that you are never sad and keep working so that you have rent money and feel like when you finally get tossed on the funeral pyre you can at least burn easily knowing that you worked constantly and like a madwoman to . . . . .ahhhh?  PAY RENT?  FIND MEANING?  GOOD GAWD THAT IS DEPRESSING--oh i digress, bear with me, it will be worth it, i promise--and i had started to BREATHE DEEPLY once again and remember love and companionship and this is the greatest gift of all . . . explaining a sinus headache of a year and a half proportion, i was telling her about an appointment that was cancelled and not told to me-the person who had waited THREE MONTHS to be seen, and when i got to the office (breath held, biggest smile in weeks) and was told that it was cancelled? i cried SO HARD, it was as though sancho had just died in my arms again. i cried about my poor broken nose, my poor dead dog, my children living elsewhere, the silence of my house, the feeling of absolute futility of anything and everything, i lost it completely. when i told her this story here is what she said, without missing a beat which would have entailed: "oh my gawd this woman is crazy! why can't she get her life together? if only she had done the RIGHT THINGS, she would not be in this place today!!!" she said, "oh GRANLISE!! did they say sorry? did they make you feel better? did they hug you and make everything all right? was anyone there to make you feel better?" did they make your crying go away?" COMPASSION and TENDERNESS. my gdaughter lives and breathes compassion and tenderness. lucky for me, the people in the office were the kindest, and you can bet i fired off a letter of thanks to them immediately. and yet another moment of pure gdaughter brilliance-and please remember dearest readers-SHE IS EIGHT YEARS OLD!!!--driving to goleta we were chattering about the long walk we had taken earlier and how many cars are always driving everywhere and as we sat in a traffic jam she said: "oh granlise!!! so many cars and so much pollution! why are we doing this to ourselves? how can we do this to our earth? it is bad for it!" and right there again i was reminded of why i was EVER a decent mother or good teacher-even for a hot minute-i was good at both of those most loved parts of my life BECAUSE i learned AS MUCH IF NOT MORE from my children and students as i ever taught them. at eight my beloved gdaughter knows COMPASSION and RESPONSIBILITY and there just is nothing better. yesterday began a true and real walk on the open road for me. yes, i truly believed back on august 1st when i bravely called out to only my dogs and the remnants of silverfish and spiders: "THAT'S IT!!! i am done paying this $$$$ to a wealthy landlord FOREVER!!!" hahahahaha such foolishness of confederacy of dunces status--what exacately did i think would happen? (and i meant to spell exactly alice style) my OPEN ROAD is taking the form-for the next hard studied week-of well worn path logistics. i am going to google through every worm hole possible. i am going to cyber dream like the best of them. i am going to sit in my COMPLETELY gutted and FINALLY decluttered little gem of an art project house and plan FUTURE GAMES.  i am going to take my soul for a walk through this well-known city of closed doors and men who cross to the other side of the street when i walk past and not notice the vacuous vacant faces and storefronts and each to his own hi-tech isolation and dearth of activity and promise, potential and excitement. i am going to live this next week with an ear tuned to COMPASSION, a calendar plastered with JOYFUL RESPONSIBILITY, and YOU KNOW WHERE I LIVE. cupcakes? coffee? stitching? writing? want it done for you? want to do it with me? time slowed down for me yesterday because of the grey-blue galaxies shining through the eyes of my darling gdaughter and i have been begging the cosmos for that for a few years now. time slowed down to the HERE AND NOW and because i remember that BE HERE NOW sensation in my very flesh and bones-i am dedicating this week to living there as much as humanly and humanely possible. in GRATITUDE . . . THANKS to you my beloved readers-email me. blog me. send me your thoughts and ideas and comforts and wishes and needs and if this crab dares to venture out of her crabshell for a few moments-writer's style-we can walk our souls along the open road for a lil bit together. LOVE ALWAYS!

Tenderness and the Blueberry

Coconut cake with fresh blueberries. All organic. All VEGAN. All cruelty-free and you can bet it is good.
And yes, I made it and the lil dogs helped. Especially Charm. They are turning into really good bakers!

Oh Facebook and all related blogs!! I have spent a day or two away from you, a week angry with you, and more than a little time vowing to never post again. And why? Why is this so you ask? Well . . . I will tell you! Listen up, OK? Aside from my constant checking of stats and worrying about saying this wrong thing or that wrong thing or the way the entire process demands that my grasp of punctuation and grammar take a back seat to passion and ranting or the way oh for gawd's sake, there are so many of us saying the same damn things! Over and over! The sun on my face, the wind blowing my hair, the birds in the trees, this sunset, that cloud spread, the crows, the street sounds, the nice guy at the rite-aid counter, the idiot blocking all lanes of traffic to check his cell phone, solstice already finished, fiesta looming its beery head. Sigh. I am quiet now. For a moment anyway. I guess what I am saying is that there comes a time when life simply must change because I make it change-not just react to changes- and this is one of those times. I am pretty damned sure, anyway. 10 hour workdays for the next two weeks and then free floating. Unattached. All children way grown and launched successfully, happily, and brilliantly into their own lives. Me. My three lil doggies. A house bursting with art. A museum of memories. All of it is going, going, gone. A wealthy landlord raising my rent. My fatigue at living month to month sets me off in search of new adventures. Is it worth it-this resurrection? Re-creation of a most painful and unsure kind? So many of us writing, posting, letting our online world know what we eat and with whom and where, why we should carry guns, what music is best, why the health care plan is a bad idea, the beauty of gardens and flowers, animals lost and found, children graduating and traveling, our faces greying but still smiling, distant but somehow superficially connected by this cyber umbilical.  I had a wonderful poster of a dark eyed beauty from Chicago, a street kid, and it was hung in my classroom with the title of "tenderness" and I think that word is a valuable one and precious. I challenged myself to rise from the flames and spend the rest of my time in a worthy pursuit, one which brings me close to people in the service of tenderness and I think I have finally hit upon an idea. Resumes will be flying and there will be a few more cakes like this one before I have the yard art sale of the century and part with my California possessions and strike out for uncharted territory.  Will I miss the pavement I have dog-walked on for 17 years? Will I miss the sun-light slatting just so through my front blinds? Will I miss the families of doves and crows and woodpeckers that have become my constant companions, the jacarandas hanging thickly purple up and down my street, the sounds of parties and dancing from the corner restaurant, and my best views from years and years of downtown walking? Oh yeah. I will miss them all like a giant crying storm all the way up the coast. But I know this move is right. I am going to be strong with myself. I am going to be unsentimental with myself. But mostly I am going to be tender with myself. Even in their cells, the prisoners must quake a little before their locked doors open. No one told me that the hours of free time wished only as moments when my children were growing would come and sit like heavy stones in my lap one day. Nobody told me that there can be something suffocating about solitude and that living inside your own head can be more like camping out in tornado alley with trashcans than a perfect zen retreat.  No one showed me the way to live these years with little money but much joy, little security but much trust, and little direction but much energy. Joan hangs around my neck and goes with me everywhere and I am always reassured by her courage and focused passion and determination to believe what she knew was right. We have eaten up the miles, I have breathed away the days and oh my friends I have burned that candle at both ends until only a wee stump of wax is left. And yet I believe that with enough cake, much tenderness, and the love and support of my beloved children I am going to stand on the shore of a Brave New World and WOW. That will be cool. Love always!!

Sky is the Limit

And here we are. A Midsummer Night's Dream. Live and real and busy doing a brazillion things, experiencing a million adventures, and chasing down memories of three decades, loading forgotten means and ways of magic, and urging ourselves on through fatigue when few will know, fewer still will care, and even less will appreciate. "There are a lot of problems buried out there in that desert." comes from my boss, a rock-solid good old boy with a heart as strong as his soul, and as we gazed down on a million (at least) cubic feet of stuff in our beloved dumpster WOW we appreciated our barely halfway through job really well done. Because finding an authentic purpose and deep meaning in life as to career and finances and all of that stuff I would SO rather not think about constantly, I vowed to do what was before me and really? A dumpster? Loaded TWICE? Me in my toxic waste mask shoveling out, well, I don't want to talk about that but yeah really? Me? I mean am I not supposed to be lounging on a riviera somewhere or sipping something sinful on that certain bridge in Paris or getting my nails done, hair styled, cards read, car washed, passport stamped or lottery ticket cashed? Whaaat? Wait . . . people keep asking me: "What are you going to do for the big 6-0?" and tonight, after a solid seven days of working REALLY hard, with everything aching and I do not even want to talk about my blasted out shoes or completely trashed clothes, I am going to tell you. Here goes: I am the VERY FIRST to admit that many hits on my blog make me insanely happy, turning out a killer batch of vegan anythings makes me ecstatic, the super small puffs floating across our summertime sky make me thankful to be alive, broken and chipped fingernails-all of them BTW-make me feel like a little tomboy devil, the cyber sounds of my youngest home for a few short weeks only before he leaves for northern promise-my last to go- makes me feel warm and included, my rescue pup's head on my foot makes me feel loved and all of this is wonderful, fabulous ENOUGH actually but WAIT there is more. Here is what I am going to do . . . tonight, right now on this glorious midsummer's night of historic proportion, I am going to tell you a short story about some special people in my life.  "Make a wish" her card says and those three words remind me to appreciate this: how can you EVER know what will come next in your life? Last year, the worst year of my existence,  I imagined myself succumbing to despair. I wondered if I could will my heart to stop. I was alone with my pain. I felt invisible. And not so many months later, because of much much writing, much much support from my beloved children, and some solid support from a boss I mentioned above-I am able to read BIRTHDAY WISHES that are some of the most loving and generous I have ever known. Who knew that a man capable of heaving a fully loaded trash can TWICE over his head into a dumpster from a porch several feet above to resounding applause and well-deserved ooohs and ahhhs, a man I have watched JUMP up a creaky ladder many feet above a stage to fool with yet another slippery light, a man who almost scares me and whom I would NEVER want to disappoint is father to one of the smartest, kindest, and most loving young women I have ever had the honor of knowing. Truly.  THANK YOU could NEVER say what I honestly feel. I am that speechless. The card that she gave to me is the official beginning of one of my most beloved birthdays of all time, and so YES!!! A birthday week!!! Sooo much cake!!  Her words remind me that truly our only mission and purpose on our beloved planet is to love and love well and love with all our hearts. Seriously, like the grinch himself-I know that her card and her words have caused my heart to grow and I am hopeful for the fate of many and the future of life on earth because she is here with me now.  May I always measure up to her respect and be deserving of such love. Every moment we spent working together was special and make a wish? OK. I'll bet you know what it is and thank you for reading and LOVE ALWAYS AND FOREVER! VIVA LA VIDA!!!

I Forgot to Dream

I am coming back to a couple of words: terminal uniqueness. I believe I have been wallowing in the squalid soup of that concept for as long as I can remember. Is it the precious bubble of the superficial town in which I live? The crystallized air of Southern California perfection that keeps most of us trapped in this Now I've Got It! sort of delusional dream of motion and meaning? The last two days have found me shoveling out a swamp of forgotten problems and using my calculator to add up days, weeks, months, years since certain businesses and ways of life and living existed in this place, as my work, and daily racing up and down the main drag of our city.  For instance . . . there was this coffeehouse where pretty much everyone hung out-back before the selfish ones sabotaged our newspaper-the suits and the junkies threw down together and laptops had not stolen our brains and our ability to communicate face-to-face and all sorts of nonsense and festivities and COMMUNITY took place there-the good and the bad.  There were these fabric stores-one of which was NATURAL and BRILLIANT and full of wonderful fabrics that kept us busy and a fireball of a brainiac woman owner with the gift of fine conversation and it too was a gathering place. There were bookstores-corporate yes-but DAMN, no matter how low or lonely you were feeling you could wander and look at a decent magazine or two and undoubtedly meet up with friends and spend a bit of time CONNECTING. Now that I am a woman of a certain age and that age has tipped me over into oftentimes invisibility-a shadow of my former self whatever in the hell that means some might say-I am looking at Bastille Day and one of my favorite claims to fame Me and France! and that certain age becoming even more certain and WOW.  What a long way I have come, from the plains of Nebraska and leaving home before I could squeak really, and living on the streets of Chicago and surviving, and hitchhiking across America and joining a cult, and herding goats, and working in a commercial bakery-a couple of them-and traveling traveling traveling gypsy style, having and raising the LOVES OF MY LIFE, and teaching, and working in theatres and wasn't it all supposed to add up to something definitive and sustaining? Yet I am standing on the threshold of certain indecision. New York? New Orleans? Portland? Woodstock? Nashville? Why oh why oh why would I ever leave PARADISE you are wondering no doubt as my own terminally unique self thinks as I sit here at command central, 17 plus years of art, costumes, and writing surrounding me-the sounds of crickets and the train way, way off joining me in my silence, dogs quietly panting just under my desk, the stars just visible through the trees surrounding my front windows-and perhaps it is all of the people I have listened to in the past year.  They have come into my life from NY and LA and points south and even Europe. Their stories are interesting, their lives are lively, and a window opens in my safe little cage that brings in some fresh air and new experiences and adventure. I do not want to spend the next decade of my life in fancy yoga clothes attempting once again to bully or forget my ego into submission with the mind numbing but I know it is good for me like fish oil meditation and all things buddha and zen. I forgot to forge a pension, I don't even really know what a 401 entails, and I honestly have a shoebox of saved money. Not under my bed in case you had designs.  With all the stubborn immaturity I can gather, I think I would rather bake a batch of vegan brownies at close to midnight, and eat as many as I want, and research places to move until my fingers go numb, and count up my dimes and dollars to see if they add up to gas money enough to  move me somewhere, anywhere before I simply fade away.  Time to strike out in my seven league boots I think and no sleepy Northern California towns for me. I have been in a beautiful weather coma for about as long as I can stand it I think.  Give me bookstores. Fabric stores. Vegan everythings. Music at night. With people as old as me. Give me crowds on the streets with small and interesting stores and many art galleries and museums.  Buildings of all kinds. People of all kinds. And purpose. Something really, really worthwhile to do, to build, to teach, to learn, to share to the best of my ability. You have been listening to me whine for a couple of years now. I did not have the money for therapy. I do not take any sort of drugs.  So I have been struggling along, trying to craft a life, trying to create art, trying to support myself.  I have walked the MILES in this town with no inheritance, no wealthy partner, and no trust fund-trying, trying, trying to make something happen, make a name and a place for myself, come out from under my terminal uniqueness and just live for gawds sake. I listened to Brene Browns talk on vulnerability once more this morning and here is what I have to say to her: vulnerability is HARD. It is damn risky. The tremendous support she has in her life, a loving husband, enough money to live and afford therapy and travel-she is smart and inspiring and pretty damn fortunate. Finding a path, speaking your mind, living an honest and daring life, is pretty awesomely scary when you are attempting to figure it out on your own. And I have UNLIMITED RESPECT for people I know, and ones I read about, who have managed to do this without all of the whining that accompanies my seeking. But it is daring whining. In all sincerity? I work as hard as I whine. I am not asking for or desiring a violin. I think, honestly, that somewhere along the line, somewhere in the middle of that train track where I have derailed momentarily, I simply forgot to dream.  I let fear and despair and shame grab my soul.  Tonight, with a head full of ideas, a journal full of figuring, and a room lit with a tiny candle of inspiration, I dared to write down a dream. An idea which I believe will become reality. A plan that I think just might break me out of this mire of frustration, indecision, and overwhelming feeling of complete OH MY GOODNESS DOES ANYTHING MATTER? thinking. Everything matters. Nothing matters.  I am always thankful to be alive, I am always grateful to be still in the game, and I am mostly full of love for my readers of these late night caffeine and chocolate infused running like a river jabberwocky moments. You keep it real for me-your terminally unique bohemian queen who just might spend the rest of this night dreaming. LOVE ALWAYS!!

A Militant Stitcher

There is no need to throw numbers and percentages, statistics or charts and graphs at you.  For one thing, we have grown empathy exhausted by the sheer weight of depressing facts as to how we are destroying our planet, environment, species, air quality, relationships, food, families, and all and every and each aspect of our human existence.  And for another, in our heart of collective hearts WE ALREADY KNOW everything we continually post and blog. We do, we really do.  When I had the honor and privilege of having an art show for my art dresses-I was determined to explain some things that make up the world of me, seen through my eyes, from my perspective.  The only vision I really actually know- as clouded and partial and fragmented as it can get at times.  Blurred by the need to survive. Taken down by one too many days loading dumpsters or not, a few too many all nighters-or perhaps not enough, and much, MUCH too much time worrying needlessly about pretty much everything. Useless for sure.  And wasted energy times a brazillion. The very reason, I am quite sure, that my hair continues to grey. At my show I hung my "Howl" dress with the words of Ginsberg written painstakingly across yards of silver grey dupioni for my beloved daughter muse. The only person for whom I would ever have hand written his words in such exacting detail.  I hung my "BodyBag Ballgown" which is a Goth and Steampunk nod to a gown which could take a woman from vanity at the ball to death and zipped up burial after the big one hits. There was whimsy and joy too . . . my wee granddaughters crumb covered "Fairy Princess" dress, which is never washed-just worn and worn again at mud pie gatherings, late night gaming sessions with cookies, and to every conceivable outing, picnic, and creek forging.  There was a  collection of circus dresses which brought me great joy to make and looked like Cirque gowns for toddlers. Loved them!! I had my "No One Owns the Roses" dress which is too personal to discuss but consisted of 101 handmade silk roses covering a shade shifting party dress skirt of the most exquisite rhubarb dupioni silk once again. There was my "Nervous Breakdown and Body Faults" dress which spoke of how as seamstresses we torture ourselves and each other to get stitches and seams PERFECT whether or not it will EVER matter or be seen. And the body faults part, I am quite sure you know what that consisted of.  My "Picasso's Business Suit" paid homage to the great man himself and I painted a crow which I know my daughter could have painted oh so much better but never mind and I lined the jacket with an amazing shimmery blue silk with words about "Woman and Crow" and Picasso written in wonderful script. The whole suit is decorated with birdseed beads. Thousands of them.  Each dress had a story and a picture which went along with it. Gawd it was an experience and heady stuff.  An art show. Mine. My work. But the greatest of them all had to be my "SHAME ON LADY GAGA THE ANTI-MEAT DRESS" and the reason I am shouting right there is so that you will hear me.  Will it help to tell you how many slaughterhouses there are in our country? How many detailed medical reports will give you the realistic facts as to the UNHEALTHY aspects of eating flesh and dairy? Would it inspire anyone to have a book store sized reference section of all that has been written about the INSANELY cruel methods of captivity and slaughter in the meat and dairy industry? Is there a person ALIVE who cannot imagine the pain and intolerable suffering that accompanies warm blooded JUST LIKE US animals kept in conditions beyond description and killed by methods and people so unkind and cruel WE MUST LOOK AWAY to take part in the savagery?  OK. So here is how my dress came about  . . . and yeah, I am serious about all of this.  I read a long article about Lady Gaga and her dress--the meat dress she wore at the 2010 MTV video awards and the subsequent outrage and much publicized debate and the $6,000 paid to a taxidermist to preserve all of that dead flesh by bleach and dye and formaldehyde and I COULD NOT SLEEP.  I started researching like a mad woman-no like a SANE woman- and I found quote after quote after quote written by all of the greats as to the inhumanity of our lust for flesh and our cruel disregard for the sufferings of our fellow passengers on our glorious ship of earth and our selfish refusal to confront what we are doing and I decided that no matter how many more people would never speak to me, I had to become a MILITANT STITCHER. The bodice of the dress has a quote by Schopenhauer, yeah and I know, the haters among you will tell me that he was a mean man and mean to women and didn't live what he preached-WHATEVER-keep it up for as long as you want but this ONE PERSON, that would be me-simply LOST IT. Or found it actually. In my best of all possible ways, I made this "Shame on Lady Gaga the Anti-Meat Dress" because I feel ABSOLUTELY HELPLESS in the face of such hatred and condemnation by people who eat meat, consume dairy and eggs, and SWEAR BY the whole you gotta eat your body weight in protein and meat and dairy mentality. Such hostility. Such entitlement. I DON'T get it?!! I have kept and butchered chickens.  I have herded goats and watched them killed and slaughtered.  I have been party to the entire animal husbandry circle of life and death. I know of what I speak.  In my deepest, strongest, purest place in my soul I know I am right.  I have held a shivering, fragile baby lamb in my arms, close to my heart, and smelled its sweet soft curls and marveled at the barest butterfly breath of its existence.  I have rested my head against the side of a calm, kind cow and felt the kinship of warm blood and warm skin and warm heart.  I have held tiny peeping chicks and petted polka-dotted chickens.  I have moved among my sister friend goats and they have raised their heads to me in greeting and snuffled and bleated their shared conversations. I know, without a doubt, that WE ARE ONE. My dress speaks to the undeniable link of blood and bone that we share with all living creatures. It speaks to my love of all of those relationships I have shared so deeply, with my domestic animals, our horses in the back country, and the farm animals I have tended. For me the reason for my "Shame on Lady Gaga the Anti-Meat Dress" comes down to this: until we acknowledge that we have caused and ARE CAUSING EVERY MOMENT tremendous and undeniable pain and suffering to millions of animals, we will never be free of worry, we will never be happy, we will never sleep in peace.  The very thing that enables us to turn away from our cruelty and continue, the very attitude that allows us to look away and justify our actions, the very ability we have to blindly pursue our own lusts over other animals lives-allows us to live unkindly as people, unfairly as citizens, and inhumanely as fellow passengers. And this dress is my VERY SMALL, tragically insignificant attempt to be a STRONG AND LOUD voice in this world moving too fast for its own good and too selfishly for its own survival. I am learning still.  See how many times I mentioned silk dupioni in my story? PETA thanked me for my "Shame on Lady Gaga and the Anti-Meat Dress" and then told me that my dress was not 100% VEGAN because it is SILK!!! Ohhhhhh. I had to learn about silk and the manufacture of silk and silkworms and WOW!! I am not angry about this. I am EXCITED. I am thrilled and PASSIONATE to contribute however I can in the FIGHT AGAINST ANIMAL ABUSE.  I am learning all I can about living CRUELTY-FREE. I wrote a short story about my beliefs. I will always remain a MILITANT STITCHER. LOVE ALWAYS and don't eat animals!!!

To Dream the Impossible

i will always love you.

Why not i am constantly asking the universe? why not? on my good days i don't need anyone to pat my head and say "good dog", i just step out into the great big fabulous video game of life and hit play. it's all good, the struggle, the dreaming, the work or lack thereof, money disappears or falls from my piggy bank, my exchanges with sidewalk strollers, clerks behind counters, and casual conversations, the sky is an exacting blue, the fog burns through at just the right moment, and i am confident in my life lived as well as imagined, as well as felt, and as well as dreamed. on my days of despair, all drama intended, i cannot seem to match up the ever increasing speed of things with my feelings of inadequacy and ahhh my gawd i have waited a lifetime probably to use this word . . . impotence. yeah. for real. a beautiful and smart young woman paid me the honor of coffee and a wee peek into her life and FOR ONCE i got to partially set aside my woman of a certain age miseries involving invisibility (and i do not mean the fabulous super hero kind) and painful aging which no one NOBODY ever warned me about and listen to her.  as i sat there, listening really really hard, i was distracted by her oh so young passion, compassion, vision, intelligence, honesty, and ok-i am going to have a girl moment don't hate me please-golden green eyes and she talked about THE DREAM and surviving and choosing a path and direction and oh WOW, she reminded me so very, very much of my own personal beloved daughter muse and her equally impassioned every move and breath-ok and her impossible shadow grey eyes-and similar, no in fact EXACT conversations and i thought GOOD GAWD!!! why is life so damned difficult? why as artists, creatives, women of a certain age, human beings in general i guess i will say, why oh why oh why the constant and continual traffic noise of what is worth doing and what gives our art importance and is validation necessary or merely desired, and good gawd again i sure as hell hope we get some or all of this sorted out before we are DEAD!!! i have a feeling that as inadequate and impotent as i might feel right now, i will feel a whole hell of a lot more useless as a pile of ash. or perhaps not? instead of believing that i am not a decent writer because i haven't been published, perhaps i will drift across moon lit prairies and tangle it up with a tumbleweed.  perhaps instead of hating myself because all the nickels and dimes in my piggy bank and shoe box refuse to add up to the cost of opening a community coffee shop/art and sewing studio/ bakery/ writer's den i will sprinkle myself over the surface of a fir trimmed lake high in the mountains.  instead of despairing over a back room with art dresses unbought and zero sales anywhere on planet earth i will sift myself down into dark soil and help bring forth great flowery beauty. ahhh . . . validation. direction. i believe we need to find each other.  i believe we need to stay hidden in our caves. i believe we need to step away from the cyber world. i believe we need to dedicate hours everyday to our many and growing online relationships. how to build a brave new world? at almost 60? i envied my coffee drinking companion her youth and drive. i loved the inspiration she sparked within me. now the work begins i think. sitting here, my legs aching me into a sleepless night, i want to become that fly away ash and leave through my front window, right past the portrait of grandpa and sit down with the stars for a bit, listen to the hum and spin of planets, and take in the dark blackness, breathe in the frozen coldness and look back at our beautiful jewel of a planet. before i time trip slaughterhouse five style, i will take a last look at one of the greatest pictures i have ever received. this dress was patched together by me when i had almost no money, working with tiny scraps given to me by a dear friend. i worked slowly and carefully and thoughtfully. i tried to sell it. nothing. i tried to give it away. no one wanted it. ashamed of my lack of validation as an artist, i tried one last time to find an owner and finally gave it to one of my best BEST students with the disclaimer that she could give it away or thrift store it if she didn't like it and LOOK!! she told me it is her favorite dress and that she wears it almost all the time. with a full heart and a rekindled desire to remain my very best me, i am pushing off and dreaming the impossible until sleep returns me to my bed. with dogs. LOVE ALWAYS and i do so love you er!! and i thank you for validating the work that comes through my hands. with all my heart.

Full Circle

3 days. Man, that is a lot of stuff!!

One of my best bosses said that he likes to stay until the party's over. I get that. This dumpster represents one of the main reasons I will never perfect anything ala Outliers style, flaunt fancy fingernails, win the husband lottery-or even boyfriend I don't think-and all of that is OK, okey dokey in fact because WOW what could possibly compare with clearing out a much and long loved theatre, sorting through countless COUNTLESS collections of pretty much everything, keeping the good and future games useable and then wheeeeee!!! tossing the no longer useful from the city's most picturesque porch.  Fabulous stuff this endgame and moving on and a new chapter. I am loving it, I really am. And then to race off after three hard working days of all of this and meet up with one beloved son here from NY, one beloved son in his last days here before San Francisco, and my beloved daughter muse and her best friend and then OH MY GOODNESS . . . the best of all-my most darling and precious granddaughter scooting over to make room for me and giving me little hugs all through dinner. There just is nothing better. Tomorrow night the skies might be full of exploding color, the streets may be filled with crowds and smoke, the weekend ahead looks long and happy, but RIGHT NOW, right now is one perfect, fabulous breath of a job well done, everyone I love gathered close, my thermos of green tea, and YOU-my best and most important reader. Love always!!

Validation and Unending Grief

When I reread my post from this morning I wonder what exactly happened to cause such a crash and burn 12 hours later? Sorted costumes. Repacked a fabulous show with good memories. Made a pot of English Breakfast tea and mixed it with fresh lemonade and sat on my back deck with the little dogs and rested a bit from a job well done. Worked on my ongoing project from this morning. Did some laundry. Watched some good bad reality cooking shows because, well . . . they are better than cooking.  I went to walk my pack and I guess it was right there, on your favorite block that it hit me hard and deep once again.  I honestly think that I might have to move when D moves up to San Francisco.  I definitely love love LOVE the warm and gentle beauty of Santa Barbara gawd knows I do, but there is something so lonely on the block where I live now.  My house is the sole bastion of residence almost. I am flying solo and even though I have never lived alone UNTIL NOW, when everyone leaves downtown it is so completely deserted except for drunks who stagger past when the bars close.  I feel frozen in time somehow and I know eating a cupcake will help.  Getting back to my great book will help.  Not so long after Sancho died a man said to me: "What is up with you? Did you think he would live forever?" Yeah. On nights like this one  I miss you so and I thought you would always be by my side. FOR REAL.

SANCHO

A Blessing and a Curse

This Saturday morning is a brilliant one. Sitting here at command central, high above the street, I am surrounded by the sky reaching arms of trees filled with singing birds. Downtown is sleepy at this hour even and hasn't yet remembered that commerce is its business. I can imagine surfers in their slippery dark seal suits waxing their boards and preparing to catch the perfect waves which I just know are breaking right off shore. Sometimes it is perfection itself to live here.  When my mind is scrabbling about like a mouse seeking shelter, in between theatre jobs is always the worst, I drive myself and everyone else more than a little crazy.  So last night I pulled out my two precious boxes of scraps (thank you Linda!!!) which have survived numerous "You have got to change your life and what you do with it for gawd's sake purges!!" and started piecing completely discordant but colorfully raucous squares together for the back of a sit on the floor and watch movies with pillows and yogurtlandia (sorbet! no dairy!) blanket for someone I love beyond words.  NO I will not make them to sell. No I will not put them on Etsy.  Even though I am completely frustrated with all things connected to sewing, stitching, design, costuming, selling, Etsying, etc etc etc--when I can think of something to make?  My sewing skills are my saving grace for sure. And with the sun hitting it from behind, my house is lit with color.  I have stitched cloth together my entire life. It is my longest magnificent obsession.

Love always!!

Dead Wood

YEP. This is me celebrating a wonderful moment with all of you, my loyal and much loved cyber followers.  I know tonight will bring dog walks, a marvelous sunset (warm!), some wonderful emails to read from a friend who writes for gawds sake, and at the end of all that . . . sit down. Are you? OK. One of my dearest friends down south will laugh herself off of her couch when she reads these next words, but after A YEAR of dragging them out, TONIGHT I celebrate the final episode of Deadwood.  A series which I have scowled at, cussed at, squinted through my fingers at, and watched with so much swaggering adoration for some of the characters, the setting (the mud! the pigs!), and of course, the costumes.  Here to snuggle up with me are my VEGAN WHISKEY CAKES, with dark chocolate vegan ganache dusting their little tops and a frosting of vegan whiskey buttercream to seal the deal.

I close with the words of the man himself: "The world ends when you're dead." ~Al
Love always!!!

Negative Self-talk and the State of the Universe

Me of course, single therefore the camera in one hand technique standing in the soon to be abandoned man cave of my youngest "child". SF here he comes.

One wall of my every inch is covered 17 year downtown bungalow home studio.

AAAAAH!!! So many FABULOUS memories of time well spent. Seriously.

Command central with Grandpa lording over it all. THANK YOU Sancho. xoxoxo.

Yeah. Ha ha ha ha. I really do sleep right in this room!!! With dogs!!!

Dearest readers, And no, I am not unbalanced or delusional, I really mean that address--"dearest".  When I look up my teeny, tiny blog in the immensity of the online my opinion is soooo meaningful blogging world I choke up a bit when I see how many have signed on and read my writing!!! Seriously, and I do so love seriously!!! Don't you? So, to begin with, THANK YOU. Ahhhh, we are alive in one of the great climates and times of fear, paranoia, melancholy, and just because I love the sound of this word, ennui. It is a saturated time of visual images and wordy documents and pithy tweets and instant connection. And because we live in one of the highly "developed" countries, we can worry about frown and smile lines, phone, food, and car choices,  and instant gratification in all areas.  Sometimes this works out to fabulous advantage, like booting up "Despicable Me" and cuddling up on the teddy bear rug with your not so wee granddaughter and enjoying a divine respite in the midst of a midsummer (almost) night. Nothing, absolutely nothing is better than spending time with people you love.  We already know this!!! But other times this constant and continual comparison and evaluation of all things about ourselves and our lives can be nothing short of punishing. In past writing I explained to you why I quit FB. The elitest drip feed of vacations to all places exotic and expensive, the millions of shots of attractive people with perfect teeth, the brazillions of descriptions of fascinating lives and successful careers became a perfect medium for self-abuse.  Many people have documented this already. And therein lies one of the key points to my rant. BTW, don't you just love the use of words like therein? LOL, almost makes my 25 year old student loan debt seem worthwhile. When I was a kid, don't you dare yawn!!! I promise this will be succinct!!! When I was a kid, I had a horrible plastic torture device called a cage where teeny white mice were supposed to live and have tea parties and raise babies and live in happy mouse harmony.  They bred and bred wildly as all mice do I guess, they just adored each other so, and one day--as I prepared to lower in their well-engineered food pellets GASP!!!! One of the mice WAS EATING ANOTHER!!!!! Holy mother of gawd--I ran sobbing-and just in case you are wondering? NO ONE sobbed better than me-scrawny, homely, prone to emotional outbursts pretty mush---ha, ha, ha--see how I wrote mush for much?  it stands-- a perfect mistake!!! all the time, bookish (just the fact that I love that word proves that I am bookish!!!), and a TERRIFIC sobber . . . to my mother who had less than nothing to say and then to my father who squinted at me over his paper and said: "Mice do that when they are too crowded." and DANG--I believe sometimes that we are those mice in the plastic box.  All racing about, trying to keep busy, surviving to exist, standing on our respective cyber soapboxes and yelling to no one, welcoming death from a polite distance, avoiding life, worrying, judging, and speaking to our inner selves in a negative way.  I am going to dedicate this to some of the women I know right now . . . WE ARE REALLY REALLY GOOD at negative self-speak. Volumes have been written to document this, you know that is true. Borders had entire shelves devoted to this topic. Every single Oprah mag has a dozen articles addressing this so why oh why good gawd Lise do you have to chime in with your two bits? Well, I will tell you--as I said yesterday--my two bits are BURNING A HOLE IN MY EVERLASTING POCKET!!! This next part helped me as much as my great "sad" experiment.  I found a quote in a thrift store book which changed my life. Sounds like a wonderful bumper sticker, doesn't it? Here it is: "See everything as if for the first and last time." I love this quote because it reminds me of that awful good Anne Rice Vamp film, you know the one, where Lestat says (I know, it is awful good like I said and painful kind of but we love it): "Now, see with your vampire eyes!" and EVERY SINGLE TIME I start to slap myself across the face with a negative thought ABOUT MYSELF, I focus my eyes in and JUST LOOK AROUND.  And I practice, truly practice seeing all things around me for the FIRST and LAST time.  TRY IT. 100% guarantee as to changed for the better life outlook. Another terminally unique experiment is to imagine the ABUSE you heap on yourself at a moment's notice was happening to 1) someone you love OR 2) your child self.  You would NOT stand for it!!! Not for one second!!! I know all of you well enough to say this without a doubt--you would come screeching to the rescue, you would cross any rickety bridge, slash your way through anything and everything all Lost style to rescue that person--ahhhhh my head is going to explode if you do not agree!!!! See? See what a cruel thing it is to think of ourselves as anything less than who we truly are? And until you have sat with yourself, truly sat with yourself--in that destitute gutter, close and dark closet, plastic box cage, quiet hour, and or vast volumes of journals-how will you know EXACETLY as Alice would say, WHO you are defending? You must become unafraid to see yourself in the bright light of day and love that light, love that day, love that brightness and realize that you are it!!! Yeah!! We are it! Wow. What an opinionated preacher I have become, haven't I? All right-substitute "I" for all of the "yous" in the above paragraph and it becomes clear that we are in MY head.  But seriously beloved readers, how much time do you have to waste? Have you let the media fool you into thinking that despising your looks, thoughts, feelings, accomplishments, relationships, incomes, talents, ideas, intelligence, position in all aspects of life is worth your involvement even for a nano second? All AMAZING time wasters!! All AMAZING life wasters!!! So be done with all of this NEGATIVE SELF-SPEAK. My beloved daughter muse sends me the MOST adorable and inspiring shots of art studios all around the world and from bygone eras as well as present day. We ooh and ahh over them because they are wonderful, but try this experiment with me--snap YOURSELF in an UNSTRAIGHTENED UP moment  in YOUR oh so perfect and precious life. Come on. Do it. Don't be afraid. Now post it somewhere. Send it to someone. Pretend that you are seeing this captured moment for the FIRST and LAST time. It IS cool, isn't it? YOU are cool, aren't you? BTW, do NOT think I posted this picture of myself because I think only good and great things about myself. Oh no, no, no, no!!! You know I struggle mightily with women of a certain age hanging onto past lunacy issues times ad nauseum!! But I am following my own dare I say brilliant advice!!! The time is NOW!!! Because face it my darlings . . . we are those mice in that box and we must stop EATING EACH OTHER!!!! LOL!!! You knew I could turn this into a vegan post!!! Love always and THANK YOU for reading and PLEASE send me your experiments in this moment of life . . . ah, MOMENT!!

Me and France and the Politics of Sad

OMG. So here we are . . . you, an unknown age. Me? Closing in on 60, and I am going to declare right here-LIVE ON THE CYBER HIGHWAY-that being alive is good. Better than good. It is damn good. It is freakin' awesome. Even on grey days. Even when the media is exploding with stupidity. Even when you are surrounded by idiots, haters, and people who preach division. Even when buzz saws wake you up with their not to be ignored whining at 7:01 when gawd knows you probably should be up and thriving, but you are still snoozing because you spent last night FEASTING on a free Hulu British 5 part series called "Mrs. Biggs" which is great for oh so many reasons!! Shut up buzz saws!!! I had to watch the last part and that kept me awake with green tea until . . . OK. 3 am. But it is all good, all great like I was saying, because a tiny pot of coffee later, some caffeine fueled inspiration from my beloved daughter muse-the world's greatest known painter BTW-and we are together here cyber flying once more. I am going to breathe life into my blog AGAIN because I simply cannot help myself. Rather than endlessly torturing my FB friends with complicated oversharing and sometimes less than astute but always fairly irreverent constant cupcake postings, I will simply download all of my high jinks and daily escapades into this familiar blog. VOILA!!!! As I simply must say. So TODAY I bring you one of the coolest and most useful figuring out Lise's life experiments that I have ever done . . . are you ready? It is a game changer for sure and even though I cannot believe that I just said "game changer" aloud, I will proceed. Livestrong has many perfectly shaped, happy, bright white toothed people all pretending to be worried about fat and calories and fat and calories and berries with unpronounceable names and exercises and endlessly the emails come to my box with all sorts of LIFE CHANGING advice, which--as an aside--almost always involve not eating butter!!?? but I digress--anyway, I read about a man biking across America, watched his little videos and read his story. Something in his words sparked: "I made just ONE change in my life." Because of his ONE change, so many other things that he had been trying for, attempting and failing, and not even imagining happened for him. And they were all good. He asked: "What one thing can you change?" and oh I hopped on that bandwagon so quickly! Always the retired English teacher, I pulled the pencil from behind my ear and began my list. Wait. My walls are COVERED with inspirational every things. I have tried my Happy Face blog, I have drawn out months of my life with each day neatly decorated and blocked out with yet more happy faces and yet more inspirational quotes and oh no oh no oh no . . . was this just going to be a repeat of my past folly? ACV didn't work. Drugs didn't work. Therapy didn't work. Diet changes didn't work. Exercising didn't work. Change of mate, job, bank, hairstyle, wardrobe, perfume (yeah, a weakness of the French kind), car, routine didn't work. Although, in truth, most worked momentarily or for a short spell. I remember clearly the day I looked at my book stacks which were threatening to take over my house and realized that 75% of my books were written by people long dead, ones who had killed themselves, profoundly depressing, and solidly in the life is hell on earth don't even try to make it better or imagine anything different just suck up and get over yourself this is life OK? genre, and WOW. That was a powerful moment. I had SIX COPIES of "The Stranger" for gawd's sake. LOL. That is pretty damn funny. I think I had literally  everything Oates has ever written. My gas oven door was a place of permanent threats. Seriously? How much had my love of dreary Hell's Kitchen writing influenced my thoughts and feelings? A lot of those books, piles of them hit the thrift store. And I am no Pollyanna!! People think of me as "sweet" but OMG, I don't think they know me all that well because I hang out at the local neighborhood bar of Cynical and if Lewis Black wasn't married? I think I would find him and stay with him all the time so that I could yell along with all of his rants. I can be pretty damn sarcastic. OK. BUT HERE IS WHAT I INVENTED AND TAKE IT AND MAKE IT YOUR OWN: I decided to eliminate the word "sad" from my vocabulary. Yes. You heard right. One little three letter word. SAD. As in the I use that word all the f'ing time. I have said "sad" probably more than ANY OTHER word in my entire lifetime. I simply described everything in my life as sad. My tea kettle sang itself dry? Sad. I have too many bills and not enough money? Sad. I am getting older? Sad. The little old man at the store looks lonely? Sad. Chickens in cages smaller than a piece of paper? Sad. Babies aborted at 5 months? Sad. I cannot get published? Sad. People drive too fast? Sad. The Sojourner raised cookie prices? Sad.  My rent got raised? Sad. My hair is getting thin? Sad. My car needs vacuuming? Sad. People walk and text? Sad. I have nothing new to read? Sad. My kids grew up and left? Sad. No one calls? Sad. OK. You understand what I am saying. At first IT WAS SHOCKING. I was like the hilarious TV show where everyone cusses so much there is a bleeeeep every other word. My jaws literally hurt from the many MANY times I clapped my hand over my mouth to stop the word SAD from coming out. IT WAS UNBELIEVABLE!!!! I had allowed my use of the word sad to color my ENTIRE EXISTENCE. It was my own personal pair of sadglasses. AND BECAUSE OF MY SAD EXPERIMENT, MY WHOLE LIFE CHANGED. Don't worry--caps in most cases indicates something I think is so dang awesome or dare I say profound--it is not yelling. Although I do honestly feel like yelling my NOT SAD ANYMORE story. And here is how it works--because I NO LONGER attribute my kneejerk response of "sad" to every imaginable situation and experience and exchange-I am forced to examine my life from different perspectives.  The price of good food is not sad, it is a challenge. New laws on the books are not sad, they are worthy of investigation. Rude people are not sad, they are to be avoided. Hating my looks is not sad, it is worth confronting. Lacking sufficient work and involvement is not sad, it is a life pursuit. AND WITHIN DAYS, my entire life changed. Seriously. I am not kidding you. I was able to CRYSTAL CLEARLY avoid and distance myself from people and situations which were depressing and unchangeable. I was able to attribute SAD to the REAL tragedies and sadnesses in life-world starvation, treatment and health care of our esteemed elderly, animal abuse, racism still rampant, wars in many places, you know-things that are genuinely sad. There you have it. My "just one change" has caused TREMENDOUS CHANGES IN MY LIFE. Thank you for reading once again and now I will ask you: "What ONE thing can you change in your life today?" And BTW, haters and the "everyone already knows this" tribe need not respond. Just move on over to another blog. There are billions of them.
LOVE ALWAYS!!!